I have been asked before “What don’t you share in social media?” My simple answer, “I don’t talk a lot about my marriage and I don’t share a lot of details about our teenager’s daily life. Not because there is anything wrong with either my marriage or our teenage son. But simply because I think a few things in life need privacy and space.”
Marriage is hard work and doesn’t need to be blogged about at our house on regular basis. Being a teenager is hard work and I am quite thankful my mother didn’t document my teenage years on a blog so I do the same for our son.
But I do like to document the triumphs and memories for our family. Today is a day to celebrate marriage for Nathan and me.
5 years ago today, Nathan and I were married in Fargo, North Dakota. My farmer dad and weather extraordinaire had told me months ahead of time that October 28, 2006 would be a gray day and 48F.
Farmer Fred prevailed. It was gray but the day was joyful just as today is.
Nathan and I had met 15 months earlier. We blogged about that meeting on an airplane. He wrote Chapter One and I wrote Chapter Two. We’ve had great intentions of writing more but something to do with three kids, his busy business, my career and…life has gotten in between us writing it down on this blog.
Most important for you to know…October 28, 2006 was the day we became a family. It was the most complete day of my life at that time.
Life isn’t perfect and as a single mom I had struggled to find my purpose in the world. I knew my main purpose was to be Hunter’s mom. Then I focused on my career. I was surrounded and supported by my family. But I thought I was destined to be with out a husband. I had found peace in it as best I as could but I still didn’t feel complete.
Of course when I finally started to feel peace with being single, I met Nathan. He swept me off my feet and literally made my dreams come true. I learned quickly there is a big plan that God has for each of us. When I was willing to let go and not try to constantly control my situation pieces of my life came into play I never even had dreamed of before meeting Nathan.
Our marriage has been a journey even in 5 years. Both sets of our parents have had 36 year and 46 year marriages and their examples guide us. Plus my grandparents just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary. We have an adventure ahead of us.
Even in 5 years, marriage has taught me more than I could have imagined but especially patience, selflessness and most importantly true love. Marriage has also given back to me more than I could have known. It’s challenging and yet the most rewarding relationship I will ever have.
Tonight we are staying home to grill steaks, eat twice baked potatoes and some green beans. If I get it done, we’ll have chocolate cake too. Our kids, Grandpa Eldon, Nana, Nathan and I will watch a bit of our wedding DVD as the girls have never seen it. It’s fun to pause, celebrate and look back at the memories.
I am most excited for the next 5, 15, 25 and 35 years and more of marriage. As my mom told Nathan years ago, “Life with Katie may not always be easy but it’s never dull.” My mom is brutally honest and our marriage has proved that statement. Our marriage has been ever changing. She also told me “Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can’t live with out.” I listened.
|A favorite moment in our wedding was when many talented men of my family sang The Lord’s Prayer.|
Happy Anniversary Nathan! I won’t say anymore or I will be breaking your rule…no mushy stuff on the blog. You make me laugh daily, are the hardest working, most devoted husband and dad and our family is blessed.